Sometimes You Just Know

As parents of autistic children, we spend countless hours searching for answers. We read books, join support groups, attend workshops, and hope that somewhere, someone has walked a similar path and can help us make sense of our own.

Back in May, while searching online for resources to better support my autistic twins, I came across A Mother's Wish. I wasn't looking for another therapy or a quick fix. I was simply searching for understanding.

As I read about its founder, Choo Kah Ying, I found myself deeply moved by her story. Like many parents of autistic children, Kah Ying had faced uncertainty about her son's future. Rather than accepting the limitations of conventional thinking, her own experiences caring for her profoundly autistic son led her to develop EpiEco—a caregiving model that shifts the focus from trying to "fix" autistic individuals to building a supportive ecosystem around them. It is a philosophy grounded in understanding, emotional wellness, empathy and respect.

Something about her journey resonated with me.

That very night, I sent Kah Ying an email, hoping I might be selected for one of the 1-on-1 online caregiver coaching sessions sponsored by SG Enable. I remember wondering whether she would even read my email. I certainly didn't expect what would come next.

Being accepted into the programme turned out to be one of the best decisions I have ever made.

Like many parents, I thought I needed more strategies to support my children. What I discovered was that the biggest change didn't come from learning new techniques—it came from changing the way I saw my children, myself, and those who care for them.

One of the most impactful sessions was when I invited my helper to join me. Rather than focusing on what she was doing "wrong", Kah Ying helped us uncover something much deeper: fear. Fear of making mistakes. Fear of my twins' reactions. Fear of not knowing what to do.

Through simple breathing techniques and calm reflection, my helper learnt that before she could care for my children, she first needed to care for herself. That shift transformed not only the way she supported my twins but also the way we worked together as a team.

The journey wasn't just about understanding my autistic twins better; it was also about understanding myself as a parent. Looking back, it's incredibly humbling to see my family's story now featured as a testimonial in the EpiEco brochure.

As the founder of Special Needs Caregivers, I often recommend resources to the families I support. But this experience reminded me of something important: before recommending anything to others, I want to experience it myself. I want to know that it genuinely makes a difference.

That is why I'm so excited to share that Kah Ying will be in Singapore on Saturay, 7 November 2026, and I'll be hosting an intimate gathering for parents, caregivers and professionals who support autistic individuals.

Kah Ying is an autism parent-consultant and a co-founder of A Mother’s Wish. She supports autistic individuals by training families and professionals through consultancies, talks, workshops, and advocacy. She is also the author of Where Does My Autistic Son Belong? and EpiEco: An Autism Caregiving Model. 

This won't be a lecture. It will be a conversation—a safe space to learn, ask questions, share experiences, and discover a different way of thinking about autism and caregiving.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed, exhausted, or simply wished someone truly understood your journey, I hope you'll join us. More details will be shared soon.

Sometimes, the opportunities that change our lives begin with something as simple as one late-night email.